Men's Retreat: The Integrated Man, May 19 - 21

Deepen Your Impact
Cultivate Greater Clarity
Become the Man You Were Meant to Be

What is holding you back? No matter what your life circumstances, at the end of the day the only one in your way is you. You, and you alone, are responsible for creating the life you want. But you don’t have to do it alone. In fact, you can’t. We need each other.

If your heart was fully yours to express, if your gifts were unapologetically presented to the world, if you were willing to be as bold and as brave as you’ve witnessed men you admire being, what might you do with your one, precious life?

What is holding you back?

Discover and claim your deepest self-expression. When it comes to love, career, and the pursuit of mastery, some of us know what we want but not how to get there. Others aren’t even sure what they would claim if they could. No matter where you are on the path, this weekend is designed to help you to see, claim, and clarify your purpose in all the important places of your life — sex, intimacy, and romantic partnership. Career, money, and being lit up by what you do. Community, connection, and having a group to support and challenging you on the path.

You — we — can’t do this alone. There are few things more powerful in the world than a group of strong, conscious, embodied men willing to challenge, support, and serve one another.

Common Challenges We Address

• Lack of emotional or physical intimacy (sex)

• Career inertia

• Poor boundaries (standing up to a boss, a spouse, a child, a parent)

• Numbed out — unsure of what you’re really feeling (no feeling = no balls and no heart, which means your life is stuck)

• Out of touch with your heart’s purpose

• Scarcity in money, love, or life

• Challenges with a marriage or partnership that seems to have run out of passion and energy

• Feeling you need to manage the emotions of your partner, your boss, your children, or your parents (you don’t, and shouldn’t)

• Feeling you’re too intense, or not intense enough

Real masculine power comes with being in touch with your heart and your balls. You know these types of men, because they’re rare as the most precious of stones. These men can access an emotionality that is grounded, not weak. They have impeccable boundaries in love and work yet aren’t hard or calcified. They are partnered with powerful women (or men) and able to be in a mature and heart-centered relationship that makes both people stronger than either one. They are strongly independent yet strive to create inter-dependent relationships (not co-dependent). They are vulnerable but still deeply masculine, strong, powerful, playful, and embodied.

The Integrated Man has integrated a strong back and a soft belly so he can get what he wants faster, easier. He knows love, intimacy, community. He is comfortable by himself, and in the stillness of meditation or nature. He knows who he is, what he stands for, and what he’s willing to die for.

We get one chance at life, one time through to bring our gifts fully into the world.
Career. Love. Parenting. Creativity. Self-expression. Service.

In the (very) intensive weekend, you’ll learn to hold boundaries with an open heart; to take in criticism, and challenge but not collapse — or posture. You’ll gain the experience of being more humble and more powerful.

It’s time to transcend ideas of what the masculine can or should be in order to find your own intelligent, skillful, fully alive, highly relational, emotionally sophisticated, and deeply powerful self.

Practices will include:

This will be led by experienced men’s work facilitators Jeff James Howard, Marco Lam, Keith Martin-Smith, and Eddie Konold. Jeff and Eddie are licensed psychotherapists. Marco is an acupuncturist, permaculture expert, and community leader. Keith is an ordained Zen priest, published author, and martial arts lineage holder, and Marco and Keith have been in the same men’s group, with the same group of men, for 14+ years.